Filling Your Voids: The Search for Living Waters

The “Woman at the Well” is one of my favorite stories of Jesus found in the book of John Chapter 4.

In this story, Jesus is on a journey with His disciples and takes a rest stop in Samaria while the disciples continue on the road to get food. Jesus takes a seat next to a well. Along comes a nameless Samaritan woman (we will talk about the significance of her remaining nameless later on)  minding her business to come and draw water from the well. This is where the story gets interesting because Jesus speaks to the Samaritan woman and asks her to give Him some water because He was physically thirsty and tired from his journey… The simple fact that Jesus even spoke to the Samaritan woman was odd, because Jews normally looked down on Samaritans because they were not fully Jewish. But we know Jesus was not your typical Jew and did not look down on anyone or thought of himself more highly than He ought to. Plus, He already had intentions that were good concerning this woman. He already knew this woman was going to come to the well when she did and even though He was physically thirsty from His journey, He knew she was emotionally and spiritually thirsty and had been looking to men to her fill the voids she could not fill on her own.

Jesus told her “what if I give you ‘living water’, the kind that when you drink it you will thirst no more?”

Jesus was speaking metaphorically at this point. The water He was referring to was not that of Jacob’s well, but that of the Holy Spirit!

Jesus replied, “Anyone who drinks this  [physical]water will soon become thirsty again.  But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.” – John 4:13-14

The women’s interest was piqued and she told Jesus that she wanted whatever water He was giving if it meant she never had to be thirsty any more. However, to make it clear what kind of living water Jesus was talking about He asked the woman for her husband. He wanted to show her that He was not talking about physical thirst, but thirst for the love and approval of men to fill her voids.  Yikes! :(woman under water fall

The woman instantly confessed that she didn’t have a husband.

Jesus told her indeed she did not and that she has had five husbands and is currently living with a man that is not her husband.. (aka “shacking” in the modern day vernacular). The woman was so amazed that Jesus knew all of this about her! He basically called her out on her mess and wanted her to stop seeking men to fill her voids and start seeking only Him (the  true LIVING WATER). From that moment, the nameless Samaritan woman was never the same. She went back to her town to tell her testimony and share what Jesus had done for her. She instantly became a woman on fire for God after her encounter with Jesus!

Lessons from this story:

1. Why is the Samaritan woman nameless?

Because the Samaritan woman represents ALL of the women who may be seeking men to fill their emotional voids. God did not want her to have a name because He wanted us to see ourselves in her… WOW!!!! This woman represents all of the women who are broken, who have low self esteem and no self worth and are looking for love in all the wrong places. She represents all of the women that think that Jesus wants nothing to do with them because of who they are or what they have done in their past.  Jesus knew all about her past and still wanted to use her! He called her out and let her know that He is the only who will make sure she never thirsts for another man to fill her voids again! AMEN!

2. Jesus met her where she was

Jesus stopped at the well because He knew she was going to be at the well. He is omniscient (all know) He orders our steps so that at the right moment we will have an encounter with Him that will change our lives.  His mission was to meet her, not to get food with the other disciples. Jesus will stop what He is doing to meet us where we are. He cares just that much for us! Jesus did not require her to come and find Him, He came and found her. Whether you are broken, empty, abused.. whatever.. He has no problem meeting us at our own well.

3. Once she encountered Jesus, she was never the same again

After the Samaritan woman encountered Jesus, she immediately went and started sharing Him with everyone she knew. She began sharing her testimony (there is power in sharing your testimony by the way). The scripture says because of  her testimony many people became followers of Christ and eventually people believed on their own that Jesus was indeed the Savior. The Samaritan woman who was once broken and empty transformed to become the light in her town!

4. If you are seeking men and other possessions to fill your voids, you will fail every time!

Nothing will fulfill you apart from Jesus. Trust me! You can try but I promise you, no man, degree, career,  material possession will ever fulfill you. It just won’t happen. Once you obtain what ever it was you thought would fill you, it will only be a matter of time before you are empty again. If we are honest, we have all sought  people or possessions to fulfill us and then wound up not really being satisfied. You know why? Because earthly things were never meant to satisfy us. That is why Jesus said, “I am the living water that will make you thirst no more!”


Have you been the “woman at the well” and Jesus met you were you were and now your life has changed! If so share and leave a comment!


The Blessing in Waiting…

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A few months ago if you would have asked me how I felt about waiting I would have straight up told you that I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT! Ever since I could remember, I have always hated waiting on anyone or anything. Waiting is the last thing I wanted to do. Waiting in the lobby for a doctor’s appointment, waiting in the airport gate to get on the plane, waiting in line at the DMV, Waiting to get results if you passed a test or not… I could keep going, but you get my point.

However, recently God has been revealing to me  that when He makes us wait it is a blessing rather than a curse, which is what I had seen it as being all this time. I thought that waiting was a punishment. Like being grounded or being put in “time-out”. If we can recall our childhood years those times of waiting to get out of our punishment time  were miserable. But God is not punishing you for making you wait. On the contrary, if God is making you wait, trust me it is for your good. It is for your development. We may see ourselves as ready, but God knows  the truth and the truth is that you are not. A lot of times we think we are ready for something because we are in the stage of our lives where by society’s standards it should be happening. Career, marriage, home ownership, child bearing, parenting, etc.,etc. . We want things RIGHT NOW (microwave generation) , but a lot of times if we had everything that society thinks we should have by a certain age we would crash and burn from not being able to handle it.

Below I share some issues God may be working on you during your season of waiting.


Patience is a fruit of the spirit. If you want to grow spiritually, God will do so by putting you in situations that will test and develop you in that area in which you lack. If you lack in patience, God will make you wait until you feel peace about waiting for God to come through. It is very hard for me because I have always said out of all the fruits of the spirit Patience/Long Suffering was the one I struggled with the most. But God is faithful to help you grow in any area you are weak in.

The Holy Spirit produces a different kind of fruit: unconditional love, joy, peace, patience, kindheartedness, goodness, faithfulness – Galatians 5:22


God is making you wait so that he can fix your need to always be in control. For example, I am a planner by nature and love to have a plan going into things that I am not familiar with. I know that this helps for certain aspects of life, but it does not help my need to always want to be in control. Having the need to always want to be in control pushes God’s will behind mine. God is sovereign. As much as I may want to,  I can not make His will conform to mine. While I try to plan my life out, God is laughing at my plans and quietly chuckling at how I think I am running the show when I am clearly not. Wow… humbling. Very humbling.

We can make our own plans, but the LORD gives the right answer. – Proverbs 16:1


As  women, we are called to submission. Even if you are not married, you still have to submit to Christ  first and in order to submit you have to pleasantly let go of your will and allow your self to be led  by someone else. Waiting is a form of submission because you are saying “even though I would rather do it like this, I will wait because I know your plan is better than mine.” Submission and waiting is another form of humbling yourself. God truly admires those who humble themselves. God  is doing you a favor by making you wait because if you don’t learn how to submit and humble yourself to Him, you may never be able to submit  and humble yourself to your future spouse.

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. – 1Peter 5:6


Surrendering your will to Christ and letting him take control is a lot easier said then done. It takes a lot of renewing of your mind to say that God’s will be done because if you are honest, you feel that you are giving up your desire and  that God will’s is not as good as yours. To put it simply, we do not trust God like we say we do. I had to stop myself and really think about the lie Satan was trying to tell me. How can God, who is perfect in every way, have a will for my life that is any less than perfect for me. Thinking that God’s plan for my life would be one lacking fulfillment is absolutely not true. Many times people who have lives that are not fulfilled are the ones who did not obey God and chose to not surrender. Giving up your will to allow God’s to take over is not giving up your desires because God put them there. It is merely saying that your way of doing it is not as good as His so you are being obedient and allowing Him to have complete control over it ALL.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. – Proverbs 3:5

 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11

I believe that God is preparing us. If you change your attitude you will begin to see that His grace and His mercy is keeping you and that is why you are waiting. He wants you to be mature and  be ready to withstand what comes with what it is your are seeking. He does not want to see you out lost and hurt because you were not yet truly ready. So do not see this time period of wait as punishment, but as a time to perfect your self so you lack nothing when your harvest time comes.

Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. – James 1:4

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Trusting God in the Middle of a Storm (Part 2)

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Our job as believers is to  simply BELIEVE!

We are not called to figure it out on our own or fix situations that are out of our control. The mistake we make is trying to fix things within our own strength and get upset with God when we become tired and exhausted and nothing has changed, or things have even gotten worse. It truly is an exhausting task trying to help God do His job, but it is a task that God never asked us to do.

Instead of trying to help God, we should just TRUST Him instead. Proverbs 3:5  says

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.  

This verse has some great instructional value to it. It tells us to trust God with ALL of our heart. Not a piece, not a portion, not some, but with ALL of it. The problem is we do not trust God completely to take care of us. We want to know why something is happening the way it is. When it says “do not depend on your own understanding”,  it basically means do not try to figure it out on your own. Do not try to help God. He can handle your storm without your assistance.

Also we must know that God is on our side  and He LOVES us! Romans 8:31 (one of my favorite chapters in the Bible) says..

What can we say about all this? If God is on our side, can anyone be against us? God did not keep back his own Son but He gave Him for us. IF God did this, won’t he freely give us everything else


Wow! This is a good reminder and gives us CONFIDENCE IN CHRIST to know that God is not trying to see His children lose in any way. It doesn’t matter who is against you as long as God is for you. The same God that gave up His only begotten Son for you to live will give you every thing else as well. Any parent knows that absolutely nothing is GREATER than giving up your child as a sacrifice in order to bless someone else’s life, but God has done this and He will do so much more! He is AMAZING!

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Recently, in order to trust God in the middle of my storms, I have learned that I have to literally SPEAK God’s word over my life.

Proverbs 18:21 says

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

If we believe that God’s word is true and applicable to all of our lives, then those words written thousands of years ago have to pertain to your life as well. Write your favorite scriptures  or the ones that speak directly to your storm on note cards. Take time in the morning or before you go to sleep (aka devotion time) to speak those verses over you and your life. The more you deposit God’s word in your life the better you feel. But you must read it and know it. The WORD of GOD is your weapon! The more you fill your spirit with the right things, the less available space  there is for the wrong things to take up room.

If you haven’t read Part 1, click here to read! 


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Trusting God in the Middle of a Storm (Part 1)



For those of us who have given our lives to Christ for any stretch of time, we can attest to having to go through some pretty difficult storms while living for Him. Storms that have us wanting to ask God  “Why Me?”

Unfortunately, some times when we initially accept salvation, we expect to  live a pretty easy life receiving blessing after blessing.  I mean, how dare we go through challenges and difficulties as children of the Most High God??

Well I am sorry to break to you, but it is pretty much a guarantee that as Christians we will go through STORMS of all kinds! We are not exempt from any of them. As long as we keep living, there will come a day when a difficult situation will happen that we never saw coming.. whether it be financially, health-wise, employment, or any kind of  life changing situation.

For me, 2014 has been draped with storms of different kinds, but luckily this go round I have grown stronger  in the Lord and what would have made me tap into a deep depression  a few years ago when I was not living for God, has challenged me to call on Him and trust Him with every fiber of my being. Honestly, there are still some major storms in my life happening  as I type this, but I want to share with you how I am able to trust God in the midst of it all.

1. Know that God is NOT punishing you

The Bible says that everyone saved and unsaved will go through good times and hard times. The only difference is that those who don’t know Christ do not have any hope. They do not have any rock to stand firm on. I can not imagine living life without God, because it is simply too hard. We as human beings, just do not have the power to handle it with our own strength. God never equipped us to have that much strength. Despite what may have been inferred, God never promised us an easy life after salvation. Sometimes life gets even more difficult once we become saved because we are now a threat to the enemy. So Satan comes after us even harder than before. I am a living witness to this… It seems as soon as I got serious about my relationship with God, I was being hit with one storm after another. This may be a tactic by the enemy to lure you back away from God and lie to you that being a Christian is not worth it, but the DEVIL is a LIE!

…He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous Matthew 5:45

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2. He wants you to cast your cares on Him

God did not send Jesus Christ to die on the cross  for us to continue to try to figure everything out on our own. God cares so much for us that He wants us to give him every burden of our life. He said He can carry all of our cares, including the storms we go through, so that we do not have to. Even though it is extremely hard to do because we feel like if we do not fix it then who will? However,  there is no storm we are going through, have gone through, or will go through that is a surprise to God. So there is nothing He can not handle, all He asks is that we give the situation or circumstance over to Him.

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.  Matthew 11:28

Give your burdens to the Lord,  and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.  Psalm 55:22

3. Know that trouble does not last always

Even though for the most part, storms last way longer than we want them to, God know what you can handle. He may want you to go through it and hit rock bottom so that all you have left to rely on is Him. Then in the 12th hour, He comes through and quiets the storms and brings the sunshine. When it is over, He gets the praise and glory He deserves, because you know it had nothing to do with you and everything to do with Him. Your storm has an expiration date.  It is temporary. It will not last forever. Go through it knowing that each day you are  getting closer to it coming to an end.

Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning. Romans 30:5


Stay Tuned for Part 2…


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Single Ladies Edition: He Who Finds…

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As  single  Christian women, we are constantly reminded of  the very famous verse Proverbs 18:22. I am sure many of us can recite it from memory, but I will just go ahead and quote it below for your viewing pleasure.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

I recently revisited this scripture during my quiet time and the Holy Spirit shed some light on the verse that I have read and heard over a hundred times. SIDE NOTE:  It is so funny how we can see something over and over, but will have a real AH-HA moment down the line when our spirits are ready to receive it. Okay back to the topic.

Here are three things that I want to share with you to help you understand just how valuable you are to Christ and how he sees you.

1. He who finds a wife

Yes, I have to remind you and also myself that a man is supposed to find you not the other way around. So stop looking. Stop trying to make a guy believe that you are his wife. If you were he would not need you to help convince him. Instead  use this time to start becoming the bride of Christ.

Jesus has already proposed his promise of unconditional love  to you over 2,000 years ago and that “ring” we get to wear is eternal life. While you are single, your focus should be completely on God with out any distractions. The Bible says seek first the KINGDOM of God and everything else will be added to you (including your future spouse). I wrote in a previous blog about seeking the Kingdom of God first. Click here to read it.

2. A good thing

The word of God says that you are a good thing. Pause and let that SOAK in for a minute. The New Living Translation uses the word treasure“. If a man does not see you as a good thing or his treasure, then, please sis,  recognize that you deserve more. You deserve for a man to see you as his good thing and his treasure.happy couple husband and wife

However,  you should allow God to first make you a good thing. And by good thing, I mean a godly wife. If we are honest with ourselves, we know deep down that we are not ready to be a man’s good thing, and we have to let God transform us in order to be a man’s good thing. It takes more than looking cute and cooking and cleaning to be a good thing. We have so much more to offer and men know this. So please let’s allow God to work on us first!

3. Favor

Lastly, God says we are a source of favor for men. I don’t know about you, but if I were a godly man, I would be looking for favor any which way I could get it. So guess what that means? A godly man is looking for a godly woman who he can obtain his favor from the Lord. And if you are a godly woman then that  godly man is looking for you. Yes! You, girl!

So now it all makes sense. Your future spouse is looking for you but first we have to let him find us and while we focus on Christ. We have to recognize our worth as a good thing and know we are the ones that will bring favor into his life like never before. Be patient! Trust God! Surrender your deadlines and desires to Him. God will not leave you disappointed. He will not leave you period!

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In Due Season… A Lesson in Not Giving Up


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Many of us are familiar with Galatians 6:7-9 as it is a very poignant scripture in the New Testament.

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.  Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.  Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.


I want to talk about that  point  in our walk where we may become weary.  The point where we are tired of doing good and not getting anything in return for it. Our harvest keeps coming up dry and its getting harder and harder to not say “it’s quitting time“. It is totally natural to feel this way. For instance, if you are constantly going above and beyond at work and your boss never recognizes you  for your effort with at least a “thank you for your hard work” recognition or reward, you will eventually become weary and let your work ethic decline because you are not getting recognized for it anyway. But God is not like man. He will reward you for your effort. 

In verse 7 it starts off by saying that we should not be deceived or led to believe a lie; God can not be mocked or  be made a fool of!  He’s not having it! Satan is busy deceiving us every chance he can get to make us doubt and question God and His faithfulness in our lives. The enemy puts ridiculous things like man-made societal deadlines in our heads and makes us believe that God operates when and how we tell Him to and if things do not happen when we want them then the end result is God is not a faithful God. That, my friends, is deception in its purest form!


Whatever you do for or against Christ will come back to you when the harvest is READY. In due time. In due season.  The dictionary defines the word DUE as something that is:

 owed back at the proper, fitting, and rightful time.


Only God in His infinite wisdom knows when that time is. The world can’t tell you, your friends can’t tell you, not even your family can tell you when your due season is–only God.

It is important to understand that God sees you doing what is right. He sees you obeying, He sees you serving, and He sees you doing good. He just asks that you don’t give up on Him. He is preparing, teaching, developing, and molding you for that blessing you have been praying for entails. He wants to equip you for your season. He has not forgotten about you.


Dear God, Please help us to remember what you said in your word. Help us to remember that you will not be mocked. You will not be made to look like a fool or an unfaithful or  an unjust God. Help us to remember that we will receive our promise when the proper, fitting, and rightful time comes. Lord, only you know when that time is. Meanwhile, please continue to develop us as you prepare us to receive what you have for us. Help us to continue to do what is right and to not give up because we know our promise is on the way.


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The best advice I could give you comes from part of the scriptures that truly impacted my life and brought me closer to God.  This part of scripture is when Jesus was teaching about worry and how worrying does not add a single day to our life. But the scripture that stood and still stays with me is Matthew 6:33.

Seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well

That scripture is so powerful because it tells us that whatever it is we are seeking to have, to become, or to develop will be given to us if we seek God and his Kingdom FIRST. What does God mean when he refers to his Kingdom and what  should we seek from Him?


Everyday we should seek to be in the presence of God through prayer, worship, fasting and meditating. Prayer is the most important conversation of our day. It is how we connect with God. We must be intentional about spending time with God. We must seek Him first before we begin our day and commune with Him throughout the day as well.


We have to study – not just read – His Word! That means highlight, circle, underline, take notes, look up references, and journal about key scriptures. That is how we begin to apply the Bible to our lives. No shade to all of those self-help books that these celebrities are publishing every month, but EVERYTHING we need to know to be a complete success in this life is in the WORD OF GOD. It is our tool, it is our guide, and it is our weapon against the enemy. How will you declare your blessing in your life, know your worth, or know that you already have the victory if you are not seeking Him in His Word?


What is God telling you to do? Everyone has a daily assignment from God.  That is why He woke you up this morning and every morning prior to this one. However, you must seek Him in order to to know what that assignment is. Maybe He wants you to call an old friend to check on them. Maybe He wants you to give food to a homeless person. Maybe He wants you to help your spouse in some way that you normally don’t. Whatever it is we must first seek Him for that instruction.


This one goes a little deeper that your daily assignment. When Matthew 6:33 says “and EVERYTHING will be added to you” that EVERYTHING points back to your God-given purpose in life. Isn’t that all what we want to know any way? Have you asked this question before… ?

God, What am I here on earth to do?

There is only one way to know what our purpose is and it is by seeking Him first in our lives. Also,  know that whatever your purpose is, it is not for you, but  for the benefit of others who need that blessing.

What ever situation you are facing right now,  I want to encourage you to seek God first regarding it and before you know it the answer will be given to you. The door will be opened. God is just good like that! That is how He operates because He said He would in His word.


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Count It All Joy …


Most believers and people in general will tell you prayer is key! Seeking God and petitioning Him about different areas in your life is definitely something I strongly recommend. However, many times, when we ask God for something whether tangible or intangible, in order to receive it we must go through a test that is hidden through some form of a trial.

For example, if you are praying and asking God for patience, you will probably go through a challenge or storm where you will have to endure  a season longer that you thought you could handle.

Maybe you are praying for a spouse, but God keeps allowing these “random” guys to keep approaching you to test whether you are willing to wait for the man He has for you or you just want a man because you are tired of being lonely.

You may have asked God to strengthen your faith  because you feel like you lack in that area and then all of a sudden you are forced to just trust  God  in a certain situation because what you are currently going through, no one, not even you can fix so you have no choice but to give it to God.

Whatever it may be, God has a way of challenging you in order to develop you. Nothing worth having is easy and God does not allow His children to be silver spoon fed.

The Bible says in James 1:2-4

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles [trials and challenges] come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.  For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.  So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.

When I was growing up I hated to be challenged. While I was in grade school, my mother always had to force me to take Advanced and AP classes because if I had my way I would have just wanted to take the easy way through school. I didn’t want to have to study or have a lot of homework. Not understanding, that my mother just wanted to prepare me for what was coming up in future (college and the “real world”). The challenges I went through when I was younger were for my own good and betterment, so I would know how to study and set myself up to go to the college of my choice debt-free. But at the time I didn’t get it. I was upset that she was forcing me to do something I had no interest in, but the whole time it was because she cared. She just wanted me to be prepared.

That is the same thing our Heavenly Father does. He does not want us to not be prepared for the plans He has for us . If we are so busy running away from the challenges and tests that He has us go through, then we are ultimately running away from His will. He wants to perfect us to be able to use us for His perfect will, which is exceedingly and abundantly greater than we could ever think or imagine. How will He use us if we never go through anything worth testifying about? Understand that the more of an impact we want to have in the kingdom, the more things we have to endure.

“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine”. – Isaiah 55:8 NLT

Also remember, no trial last for ever. God is with you every step of the way making sure you are developing at the right pace and time that He needs you to develop. You have gone through things before that you thought you would never be able to come out of.. but God… Once He feels like you have gotten and passed the test, the doors to your blessings will begin to open and you will see that the challenge wasn’t that bad after all. So never stop praising Him and continue to pray.. just be careful what you pray for because you just might get it. 😉

You Think You Know But You Have No Idea: The Truth about Discontentment

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If I could be completely honest, last year was a little bit of a doozy for me and I finally know why. I spent majority of 2013 being discontent with pretty much every aspect of my life. Even though I was growing in my walk with Christ, I still wanted to be in a very different place than I was. I let what was happening around me affect my overall happiness. I was constantly comparing my life to others and while I had everything I needed and was accomplishing goals — it wasn’t enough. I felt that I had nothing I wanted. I was pretty depressed and wearing that good ol’ mask every day–pretending to be just fine. But only a very, very small amount of people knew the truth.

The reason I am comfortable enough to be transparent about that is because I have now made the CHOICE to be content. Reflecting back, I now understand that the reason I was so discontent was because I had very little faith in God. I was only looking at what my physical eyes were seeing and not looking with my spiritual eyes what God is doing.  I now understand that God’s perfect timing has me right where He wants me and instead of trying to force God to change my circumstance, I should be living in the present. Enjoying this season.

For we live by faith, not by sight. – 2 Corinthians 5:7

In my previous blog post, I wrote about how our lack of faith is a direct correlation to our lack of self worth. In addition, our lack of faith is also a direct correlation to our level of discontentment. When we take our eyes off God, stop trusting him  completely and start to focus on what everyone else is doing, making, and accomplishing we are setting ourselves up to become discontent.

For some crazy reason, we feel like we have the same infinite wisdom that God has. But we forget that we don’t even know what will happen in the next 5 minutes so how can we have infinite wisdom? We will never know more than God!

The bible says in Psalms 139:16…

You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed

We think we are ready and that we can handle all of these things we desire, but God knows us better than we know ourselves. He knows we are not yet ready for a relationship, marriage, a new job that would be more demanding and stressful just to make more money.

You THINK you are ready for marriage. He KNOWS that you just want companionship, a ring, and a fly wedding, but not the daily sarifices and the selflessness that come with marriage.

He KNOWS you just want more money in the bank to spend on whatever you THINK you need but just really want, but not necessarily that annyoing boss that doesn’t let things go like your current boss does or the extreme travel that would come with the job that you THINK you are perfect for.

My point is God knows we just want to experience the good, but don’t necessarily think about the inveitable bad that comes along with it. He knows that most people are not airing out the sacrifices they are making to make their lives appear perfect. He is not saying you don’t deserve the desires of your heart, He is just making sure you can handle all that comes with it first.

Because God gave us all free will, we all know people who stepped ahead of God and did things without consulting Him first. A lot of them are living with the consequences of it. Consider yourself blessed that even though you tried to get ahead of God, He did not let you.

The best advice I can give someone who is unhappy and discontent about where they are or where they are not yet in life is to first have more confidence in Christ. Trust God completely and then count your blessings. Yes, name them one by one like the song says.

Count your blessings, name them one by one. Count your blessings, see what God has done.

Self-Worth and Mustard Seed Faith

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I recently had an AH-HA  moment about faith and it came from who else??  Oprah.. lol.

I am sure we have all heard the famous passage in the bible about having faith the size of a mustard seed can move mountains.  At this point in the scriptures, Jesus is approached by a man to heal his son who is demon-possessed. However, before he heals the boy, the man mentions to Jesus that he first brought his son to his disciples to heal him, but they could not. After healing the boy, Jesus chastises the disciples and tells them the reason they are not getting the results they want is because of their lack of faith.

Jesus then equates faith to a mustard seed. The thing is a mustard seed is one of the smallest of seeds out there. It is only 1 to 2 mm in diameter and is primarily used for spices in regional parts of the world. featured image_mustard-seeds-brown-1

I’ll be honest, for the longest time it was hard for me to grasp that our faith or lack thereof  is not even comparable in size to one of the tiniest seeds out there. How could that be when we pray, claim, and think we are doing everything right? Remember that Jesus knows us more that we know ourselves, so even though we may think we are doing everythng right, in actuality, that may be the farthest thing from the truth.  Then it hit me, that the mustard seed had nothing to do with prayer and claiming things we want but it had everything to do with “belief of self-worth“.

Remember that Jesus knows us more that we know ourselves, so even though we may think we are doing everythng right, in actuality, that may be the farthest thing from the truth.

A mustard seed represents our thoughts. The thoughts we have in our minds of whether or not we are worthy of whatever it is we are seeking and trusting God for. When Jesus was telling the disciples that they lack faith the size of a mustard seed, He was saying that they do not  even think they are worthy of performing the miracle of healing, something Jesus told them they would be able to do as well as even greater things (John 14:12). It represents the smallest of  thoughts we have of oursleves that that we are afraid to admit. Thoughts that reside in the back of our minds that we may never  actually accomplish our goals because secretly we do not think we are worthy of them.

Anyone can claim they want a million dollars, but it is only those people who claimed it beforehand and actually believed that they have what it takes to work  hard enough to recieve it are now millionaires.  To me this is deeper than fear or getting in one’s own way, but this goes into our feeling of self-worth. It goes beyond “claiming it” to actually believing you are enough.

Jesus used that specific seed as an analogy to make it plain that something so tiny and simple can be the deciding factor of your faith. Your self-worth is a direct correlation to your faith. Do you truly believe you are worthy of recieving?  Something as small as a thought can truly manifest. A lot of times people say look at the root of an issue, but Jesus told the disciples  to look at the seed. The seed comes before the root. So if you think you are not worthy of a good husband, career, LIFE in general.. then it may manifest its way to being just that. There is a famous saying that is

 “If you think you can, you will; if you think you can’t, you won’t”

It’s just that simple.